So. The Offering...TIME & STORY

Quite a few of you have asked for more information on how to use the ideal constituents, how to build your relationship with them, & really, how to hold them: "Who are these people, & why are they in my consciousness?" 

I'd like to share with you how my 3 ideal soul constituents have impacted my family's freedom, my sense of purpose, & our income. This is the story of how I've come to work with Icons, Beacons & Angels. First, Sara offered up this comment that pretty much sums up the questions:

Sara 

So, I'm connecting with these archetypes, and wondering where to seek them, wondering how they can be placing such confidence in me. They aren't whom I expected to meet, and that surprise is throwing me for a loop ...    

thinking maybe they aren't my constituents, or maybe they are...

Yes, Sara, it's so strange, right? Again, this process kinda blew me away for years.  In my own case, I was - and still am - a fashion stylist, really. I had no intention of doing all this other work, the giving plans, legacy design, or businesses that support vision-keepers. Never mind the freedom to choose my activities, each & every single day.

I worked primarily with up-&-coming icons, at Fred Segal, and that was my heart's delight - at 20 years old. I grew up in San Francisco, surrounded by Asian-American artists & activists. This was such an obvious, constant piece of my life, that it never occurred to me that art & activism was a vocation. Of course, artists, activists & community leaders are the beacons. I was a peer facilitator from a very young age - 10 years old, actually. But again, this isn't what I would have chosen. It was a thing I did, part of my role in the community, just like that kid who waters the plants or the one who is always on a sports team. At some point my up-&-coming icons became actual icons, & I was styling A-list celebrities. They had no access to the sense of tribe I grew up with, & wanted to know how to experience the support that happens in family-style communities. At the same time, the young USC football players that D was recruiting were becoming NFL athletes - also icons. 

In both cases, there was an overflow of resources {time, money, fame, credibility, contacts} that, because I was raised as an activist, I could see were deeply needed in the world. I developed a deep-seated passion for keeping their money in the communities that raised them up.  The Icons knew they wanted to make a difference in the world, but they didn't know how. At some point I also saw that they often aged out of their industries within 5-10 years, so they also needed Plan B's. 

All the Beacons in my life had initiatives (projects, organizations, inventions, social-entrepreneurial adventures) that needed funding. No one could have guessed that my ideal constituents would be large hairy athletes (icons), or that woman who was fighting for water rights in Israel (beacons). And yet serving them has given me more creative options than I ever would have dreamed of. It also gave me a reputation for making things happen.

As I became a mother, & began filling my life with other mothers, & the farmers, herbalists, healers & birth workers who cared for us, the Angels appeared. They were my angels, my lifelines. I would never design them as my ideal clients - half the time they have no money, time, or mojo for a large initiative.  Because my reticular function was tuned to the "make things happen & share resources" station, all their hopes & dreams still came flying to the surface. The next, most obvious & organic step in each of my relationships has been to forward their work. Sometimes it looks like I play matchmaker. Often it looks like facilitation in a group, fundraising, organizing or sharing. Mostly it looks like exploring the landscape of possibilities together.

So none of these people are my clients. They are all my constituents, those I serve. Much of the time I am also their constituents, too. It's a circle. There is no hierarchy, no one ahead of anyone else. It's a movement of many movements that we are all a part of.

In getting to be piece & part of the realization of all these projects, communities, documentaries, publications, gatherings, & the like, my heart is filled to overflowing. I meet my best friends & am surrounded by a tide of inspiration + meaning. As a bonus, these folks are all too busy to take my lack of time & attention personally. They are full & they respect that I am full.

When there is a business that D or I are excited about, & we are asked to fundraise & facilitate it's realization, we receive equity, in the form of cash, stock, & dividends. We are tide to the success of each venture personally. In the case of Advanced Laser Clinics & American Laser Clinics, this took them from concept to 78+ clinics & a sale of over $200 M in just a few years.

My programs - well, I never invent my own programs! They are asked for & then I mention them a couple of times, & they fill themselves. It's not that I don't work hard. I do, because I have a deep love of design & a need to learn my way thru things. But it all comes from an impulse to complete a piece of the story that's evolving. I'm given by my piece in the larger continuum. Sometimes this keeps me up nights, it falls inside of my "flowments," the zone where time disappears for me. It's a natural expression of my gesture. 

I've discovered that a Beacon or Angel's idea is useless unless we build it out to the point funders/publishers/theatres/producers/clients/readers/participants/collaborators can understand the invitation. So they need me to help them flesh out the concept, map out the details & strategize the movement. I've discovered that Icons get eaten up by their industries if they aren't given a muse, don't cultivate their values into a lifestyle or manage to surround themselves with Beacons & Angels who inspire THEM. They also need help creating Plan B's, because it's hard to see the value of their futures outside of their "legends." So I get to connect the dots, & really find myself in the middle of the most unlikely, infinitely open-ended creative collaborations.

What's most fascinating are the "hybrids" in my life, like Angela Lindvall, who's a fashion icon, a committed environmental activist (Beacon), yoga instructor, holistic nutritionist & mother to Dakota & Sebastian (Angel). In these hybrids, I have found a place where I am able to be completely myself, fully nourished & totally free to be as big & small as I actually am.

Also fascinating is the fact that this allows me to work completely word-of-mouth. There is very little social media happening in my life, which is great since I have a bit of the octopus' gesture: I like to hide in my den, & make it pretty; I like to hide, to blend into invisibility, & when prodded, I tend to throw out a bunch of ink & just jet. So knowing exactly who I serve & serving them with all my heart creates it's own kind of marketing that doesn't push me into my panic zone.   

So let it unfold a little bit. These constituents are part of a larger story that is still in it's mystery stages. Give it some time to settle into the fuzzier daydreams. Let's Offer Up the story, & and the time. And by that I mean, let's just give all those concerns to the Eternal to worry about. It's kind of an offering,  it's kind of a surrendering, & it's kind of a bit of trust. 

Your people don't have to be big, or famous or seemingly important to society. Remember that isn't what I started with. They grew into that. And the quiet ones are really the source of nourishment & learning for the rest. Notice if there is any judgement about them, & just see if you don't actually have a prayer to offer them, some kind of wish for them to find their way. If they are wounded - well, that's pretty much a guarantee of business success if you meet them with a committed heart.

Remember that they are not necessarily putting their trust in you. They are looking for someone to host the conversations that are going to give them their lives. Nothing less. Even if they already have most amazing lives, you hold a certain key that is off their radar. It's off your radar, too, but they will help you to find it as you feel into their needs. If they shared something of value during your meditation, then just include any judgement or doubt you have in yourself with the mystery of what's unfolding. They have more to share with you. Seek them more by creating a space for them in your life, in the form of vignettes, collages, altars, & real friendships with folks that feel like them. I've given some examples in the photos below.

xxx, Maya

PS - For those who are ready to just build their tribe, & on social media specifically, Chalene offers this genius, generous & free podcast, & daily Periscopes. To give you a sense, she has 775k likes on FB. Yup.

PPS - Speaking of which, Periscope has about 15 million users & only about 3% are broadcasting. That's a ridiculous stage for sharing. Early settlers always have the advantage! 

PPPS -If you are up for sharing your experience around this more, I can give you more feedback & insight into what I see about your trine.

 

I live with their questions, make prayers + wishes for them on stones, & leave them as offerings.

I live with their questions, make prayers + wishes for them on stones, & leave them as offerings.

I make spaces for them to gather together to collaborate & expand.

I make spaces for them to gather together to collaborate & expand.

I adorn my space with their gifts & handiwork.

I adorn my space with their gifts & handiwork.

I leave them little signs On Path. In some ways it's like a little secret blessing for them, but probably more likely, it's a little marker for me, to acknowledge how they are changing me as I walk. 

I leave them little signs On Path. In some ways it's like a little secret blessing for them, but probably more likely, it's a little marker for me, to acknowledge how they are changing me as I walk. 

I strew little tiny vignettes that honor them all over the place. They are a reminder of my support + blessings in this work.

I strew little tiny vignettes that honor them all over the place. They are a reminder of my support + blessings in this work.

I look for symbolic versions of them On Path, to study them. Here: Icon. 

I look for symbolic versions of them On Path, to study them. Here: Icon. 

Beacons.

Beacons.

Angels.

Angels.

I keep symbolic versions of them in my garden. The garlic - Angels. The goat sisters - Beacons. Keeping symbolic animals is a great way to really play with the different personalities & to learn about their ways.

I keep symbolic versions of them in my garden. The garlic - Angels. The goat sisters - Beacons. Keeping symbolic animals is a great way to really play with the different personalities & to learn about their ways.