Rise :: Water!

All hail the gift of H2O! Mamas, please remember to stay hydrated during this beautiful summer. Hydration helps aid in digestion, clears the mind (85% of your brain tissue is water!), flushes toxins, reduces stress, nourishes the skin, speeds metabolism, and ensures milk production if you are breastfeeding. 

A few tips to boost hydration:

- Drink a glass of water first thing in the morning

- Use a beautiful glass, goblet, mason jar, or fancy water bottle to make the task feel special 

- Keep a lovely pitcher of water on your table; sometimes the simple act of pouring can be addictive  

- Sip herbal teas

- Experiment with adding fruits and herbs to create refreshing and hydrating beverages (without added sugar). Even simple cucumber water (Potassium! Antioxidants!) does the trick. Click here for more recipes:http://www.theyummylife.com/Flavored_Water

- Stash water bottles in your fridge so you can grab and go on your way out

- Grub on hydrating foods such as watermelon, cucumbers, apples, and cantaloupe.

Leigh

“It is important to understand who the real experts are. The second greatest babycare expert is within us, just as surely as it resides in every surviving species that, by definition, must know how to care for its young. The greatest expert of all is, of course, the baby — programmed by millions of years of evolution to signal his or her own kind by sound and action when care is incorrect.” - Jean Liedloff in The” Importance of the In-Arms Phase” (photo by Jeanette LeBlanc Photography)

“It is important to understand who the real experts are. The second greatest babycare expert is within us, just as surely as it resides in every surviving species that, by definition, must know how to care for its young. The greatest expert of all is, of course, the baby — programmed by millions of years of evolution to signal his or her own kind by sound and action when care is incorrect.” - Jean Liedloff in The” Importance of the In-Arms Phase”
(photo by Jeanette LeBlanc Photography)

Rise, Dad-to-Dad :: Baby Bonding #7 Capitalize on the odd moments, the 5 minute increments in between the busy-ness of the day. Even if you work out of the home - or keep long office hours in the home - never underestimate the power of Daddy-bonding with your child even if you have little time. When taking a shower or getting ready, snuggle your baby down safely in a stroller or seat and let them be part of your routine. Talk to them through the soothing sounds of the shower, look at them in the mirror as you shave, give them a low-down on your day, ask them to help you pick or clothing. This simple ritual helps build love, trust, and brain power as they converse in their own way with you. And you get to step out the door in a better mood. - Leigh 

Rise, Dad-to-Dad :: Baby Bonding #7

Capitalize on the odd moments, the 5 minute increments in between the busy-ness of the day. Even if you work out of the home - or keep long office hours in the home - never underestimate the power of Daddy-bonding with your child even if you have little time. When taking a shower or getting ready, snuggle your baby down safely in a stroller or seat and let them be part of your routine. Talk to them through the soothing sounds of the shower, look at them in the mirror as you shave, give them a low-down on your day, ask them to help you pick or clothing. This simple ritual helps build love, trust, and brain power as they converse in their own way with you. And you get to step out the door in a better mood. - Leigh 

It's the Simple Things :: Wipe Warmer DIY

By the time the second, third, and fourth baby arrives, mamas come up with little tricks to make life more full of ease. This one is so simple that it almost feels to ridiculous to type.

Not wanting to startle a newborn’s skin with a cold wipe, I warm the wipes a few different ways:

1. Hold a wipe in my closed palm for a minute while I take off the diaper. Body heat for the win! (My older kids like to be the one to warm the wipes too).
2. Place the container of wipes in a warm windowsill or spot of sun. 
3. Run the wipe (or a washcloth) under warm water.

I know, simple. But its quick and free and works like a charm. 

rise :: get informed

Did you know we have a movie? Oh, yes. PPE’s Jennifer Davidson, lactation consultant to A-list celebrities & Chantal Molnar, birthing pioneer have done an exquisite expose on the business of being postpartum, why we can trust our bodies, & trust our babies. I well up when I think of how important this movie is, & what went in to making it happen. It’s a true Heart Work. If you’d like to hold a screening, send us a message & we’ll make it happen. xx! Maya

https://vimeo.com/81419417

Rest :: Just get into it.


We only get 365 days with this baby. And then baby is a new big baby, never to be seen the same way again. The new baby will have opinions and preferences and be awake and walk off and pull things off shelves and empty garbages. And we will maybe still be exhausted and still be baby’s favorite place to settle. But it will look different. Only right now does baby not need constant entertaining, or toys, or cooked food. And when that happens, it’s a whole new set of worthwhile moments. So we just get into it, and it’s sometimes ridiculous. If we stopped to worry about it, we’d be screwed. Laughing and crashing when wiped and plodding along has worked for a millennium. Getting pictures of these moments is even better. Looking back at this, 6 years ago, makes today’s missed lunch date seem like no big deal, ‘cause this boy and his brother would much rather me be here, and really, so would I. I’ll catch up with life soon enough. -Maya

Rest, then Rise :: Boundaries

In this tender time, no one should expect you to come to the door, to take guests, or watch you watch them fold your laundry & make soup. And yet… it happens. There’s all kinds of good intentions that come your way from all kinds of people, or maybe, you really, really need a little support from folks who aren’t that great but it’s all you have. Most of the time you really want this company, but it’s just a lot! There’s milk everywhere, you’re tired, you’re hungry, you’re attending to mysterious, constant cues from baby & there are…hormones. Emotions. Dynamics from before baby came. Regardless, this isn’t time to take care of “them.” This is the time to take care of any rest, bonding & healing that need to happen. So that means, 

"No. No, I’m not going to answer the door. Or yes, I’m going to unlock the door, but I’m going to lock my bedroom door. No, I’m not going to go downstairs. No, I’m not going to receive that beautiful lasagna. {Thank you for leaving it on the step.} No, I’m not going to keep you company because you are washing our dishes. No, I’m sleeping, because the baby is sleeping. No, I’m not going to answer my phone, texts, or email. I’m learning how to nurse this baby, who has different cues, needs, sounds, smiles & style than every other baby & I am going to be here, right now, for this experience…"

You don’t have to make anyone feel comfortable in your home, you don’t have to cater to anyone’s need to be seen. You don’t have to be there for other people’s stories, neediness, loneliness or drama. You can do that later, if you must. They are there because they ultimately want to help. If someone is there to look involved, to be seen, to take pictures, or to meet their own needs, then their visit can wait. You don’t have to explain yourself, love. So let them help, & remember: No is a complete sentence.

-Maya

As we move in to Mother’s Day…however they arrived, however they chose to be born, you showed up. And continued to show, and keep on showing up. For all of it. Thank you for that.  {My friends Leang Ngov, Brandon Muheim, baby Max & our lovely midwives, who stand guard over our choices in the autonomy of our family rites.} - Maya "Home water birth with our baby boy, Maximus Wolfgang Muheim last year on Mother’s Day weekend. Can’t believe our darling boy will be a year old soon already! This was me being so relieved after Brandon caught our son and handed him over to me in water tub right in our home with our lovely midwives. Love love love! — with Brandon Muheim.” - Leang

As we move in to Mother’s Day…however they arrived, however they chose to be born, you showed up. And continued to show, and keep on showing up. For all of it. Thank you for that. 

{My friends Leang Ngov, Brandon Muheim, baby Max & our lovely midwives, who stand guard over our choices in the autonomy of our family rites.} - Maya
"Home water birth with our baby boy, Maximus Wolfgang Muheim last year on Mother’s Day weekend. Can’t believe our darling boy will be a year old soon already! This was me being so relieved after Brandon caught our son and handed him over to me in water tub right in our home with our lovely midwives. Love love love! — with Brandon Muheim.” - Leang

Rest :: Older Sibling Toolkit

This is a nice kit for aunties & uncles to put together for the new baby’s older siblings, especially if they are pretty young and very used to having all of mom’s attention to themselves. A happy, affirmed, occupied & empowered child is more likely to let mom get some winks while baby is sleeping.

No aunties & uncles to help with this? No worries. Older siblings have gone without since the beginning. :) - Maya

Rise, Dad-to-Dad :: Baby Bonding #5

Pick a time & place, and let that be your time & place. We like to provide a little predictability & form, and baby really sinks (syncs?) right in when she knows when it’s Daddy time, relaxing in to your part of her daily rhythm. This applies to working moms & other consistent family members, too. If you’re there for bath time, then baby is tee’d up for bedtime. If you take her for a walk everyday, or even twice a week, at 10 am, then she knows you are the source of her midday nap. Consistency will take you far as baby’s favorite novelty!
(Image :: http://www.romancemeetslife.com/2013/09/bathing-baby-nigerian-fathers-who-are.html)